8 Things I Don't Get About Evangelicals Leaving Nasty Notes (And No Tip) For Homosexual Waitpersons

Here's what I don't get about Christians leaving nasty notes and no tip for homosexual waitpersons (see here and here for a few recent examples):

If homosexuality is a choice (as so many misinformed Evangelicals believe), and if acting upon homosexual urges is 'an abomination,' then I have a whole lot of questions:

1. How do these Evangelical diners know that their waitperson is having sex, or with whom they have having sex? Maybe their waitperson is a virgin?

2. Why are they so sure that their waitperson is gay? Did they talk about all the gay sex they're having and then list the specials for the day?

3. Do Evangelicals think about the sex that every waitperson is having? Maybe that's a problem?

4. Do they leave similar judgmental notes for seemingly straight waitpersons who might be having sex for reasons other than procreation? Or who might be divorced? Or having an affair? Or who might have a tattoo? Or who might be judgmental assholes?

5. WWJD?

6. Maybe sexual orientation is not a choice?

7. Maybe who cares if it is a choice?

8. Maybe gratuities are for services rendered and not for the display of specific human traits?


  1. Exactly. This ticks me off in so many ways. The tip is considered part of the waitstaff's pay; the minimum wage for waitstaff is less than $4.00 per hour. As far as I'm concerned, the people who did this stole the service of the waitress. And like you mentioned, how do they know she's gay? A lot of straight women have very short hair. These people are jerks, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

  2. I've thought about a couple of these points, too.... I finally decided that yes, evangelicals picture EVERYONE around them having sex.

    I don't think I'd make it through a day in public if I started picturing everyone I see on the street, the mall, or grocery store having sex,

  3. Evangelicals seem to have a disturbing fascination/obsession with gay sex. Rick Santorum is a great example. When I go out to eat the LAST thing on my mind is gay sex. Regular sex, maybe. It's in the back of my mind if I am on a date with my wife and she's lookin all hot and eating a burrito in a sexy way or something. Otherwise, I ain't thinking about sex. Unless the waitress is really hot. Or even waiter. Perhaps it occurs to me that my waiter is a good lookin dude and I bet he gets all the ladies. Maybe that's what happens- Evangelicals are constantly thinking about sex with their help. especially with those of the opposite sex. They are all secretly gay?

    Just my thought process. Enjoyed your thoughts, as always.

  4. Ironically I'm currently reading the chapter about homosexuality in Peter Gomes' book "The Good Book." And now it makes even less sense than usual for people of faith to gay-bash. (I mean, even if you really think it's a sin you still shouldn't gay-bash - but Mr. Gomes makes an excellent case for it NOT being a sin). Sometimes it's hard telling people I'm a Christian when there's all this nonsense out there. Sigh.